“You Need A Reality Check!” – Why Everyone Wants You To Fail

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This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, Reading Between the Lines, The Hidden Power of Language.

To give a bit of background for the excerpt, this chapter is about those situations where you are on a path of intellectual or spiritual growth, and those around you either do not understand or attempt to pull you ‘back to reality’.

More often then not, these people are your closest relations and friends.  They know you the best, so when they see you begin to change, they get worried.  Despite the fact that you want to grow and improve yourself in some way, change is something most people fear.

The challenge for you is not only to weather the storms, but to endure the metamorphosis…

This particular segment is a set-up for the mental tool I’m about to suggest as a way to get around these issues.  Our ‘emotional boat’ is simply a description of how most of us live our lives in a very static, emotional state, which is a result of years of continually thinking and speaking the same way.

If all goes well, the book will be available early in 2010! I hope the post gives you an incentive to read more…

“This emotional boat gives us a sense of protection and support. It provides some kind of correctness-of-self as we attempt to navigate our way through the ever-changing sea of life, or ‘maya’ as the ancients called it.

The problem is most of us never take time to get out of the boat!

Our boat is our place of refuge in this unpredictable sea of material life that rages around us. When the seas are calm and flat, we sail along in life as if nothing could inhibit our path.

We can see the horizon for miles. We reconfirm the comfort and stability of our boat, such that we feel in control of our vessel (ourselves) for short periods of time.

We soon learn though, that the ebb and flow of the tides of the universe can bring surprises.

When a storm arises (an unexpected physical event presents itself to our emotional layer) the physical waves begin to toss our emotional boat to and fro, and our captain at the helm of the boat tends to huddle down or worse…we lose control and begin to react to the storm as if it had total control of the boat until the end of our days.

At its worst, the waves are so high that we can no longer see the horizon, and we tremble with fear and doubt, like children who cry at the sound of thunder because they don’t understand the science behind the roar in the clouds.

We now make decisions out of panic. We think our boat (our emotions) will be overcome and destroyed by the sea (material experience). Hence phrases like ‘reality bites”, “love hurts” and “life is a struggle”, become not only common language but movies, songs and even philosophies unto themselves.

Eventually though, the storm subsides and we have time to reflect. We realize we have no control of when these times of storms or calm are to be our experience, so we just sway back and forth with the tides, never really getting anywhere because the sea of life is so vast and is constantly changing its mind.

We believe we are just like a cork, bobbing aimlessly around on the surface, driven by the winds and tides of destiny.

Now this is a very humbling place to be. We feel that we have no real control of our experience, and we have no choice but to accept what is given to us everyday, whether it’s good or bad.

But when we look around, and see everyone else bobbing up and down and being tossed around by the storms of life, we feel better that we’re not alone. This affirms the internal expectation of having no control in our lives.

This study is a guide in learning how to navigate the storms when they arise, and more importantly, how to expand those times of calm.

You need the eyes to see.”

I look forward to your comments and/or thoughts!

Part 2 coming tomorrow…

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